I purchased an Essence magazine a while back and like always, I read the editor page. It was the October 2012 issue where, Constance C.R. White, Past Editor-in-Chief, discussed pursuing our dream or goals – but how we often times get discouraged. Basically, we ask ourselves, "Why me? We feel like we don't deserve it, we are not smart enough, pretty enough, lack the experience, not cultural enough or we messed up too bad." She asked, "Why not you?" and in that moment, I got it. Why not me??
I needed to stop doubting my appeal and start becoming more confident. I needed to let Psalm 139:14 "You are fearfully and wonderfully made..." sink in my heart and spirit. I needed to tell myself I can have a wonderful and loving relationship with a great guy! God says in 1 John 3:1 "It is my desire to lavish my love on you..." He says in Phil 2:13 "For it is I who gave you those desires..." So, why not me! And, why not you! Do you feel me?
When it comes to dating and relationships we tend to sabotage things from the beginning because of self-doubt, or what I like to call "unbelief". Unbelief is a lack of faith. When you have unbelief, you begin to make decisions that can take you away from your destiny…the plan that God has designed for you.
We all know the story of Abraham and Sarah. God made something out of Abraham when he was a nobody. When everything was hopeless, Abraham believed anyway, and didn’t dwell on what he saw he couldn't do but on what God said he would do. He wasn’t asking doubting questions like "Why me?” He took hold unto the promise and walked it out knowing that God would make good on what He said. And he Did! I know you know this song…
”Father Abraham, Had many sons,
Many sons had Father Abraham,
I am one of them and so are you
So let’s all praise the Lord.
Right Arm, left arm!”
Sorry, I thought I was at Girl Scout camp again…BACK TO THE POINT!
You may have unbelief that you won’t meet your Prince-Charming or Queen, that your business will never take-off, getting that master degree is so far-fetched, or you can’t afford to take that dream trip to Fiji. Just stay in His will and have faith that He can do the impossible! When you take matters into your own hands, make sure you’re operating in “I have faith mode!” Discerning what you are hearing so that you’re making good conscious decisions. Remember, “The Decisions You Make Determine Your Destiny”.
So without further ado, allow me to introduce myself. My name is Stephanie Shea, a former side-chick, navigator, pathfinder, author, and speaker who empowers individuals to make destiny decisions. Check out my website at www.destinydecisions.com. You can also follow me on Twitter @destinydecision and Facebook https://www.facebook.com/makingdestinydecisions.